Get a pen. Write this down. “Resentment grows where a boundary needs to be planted.” We all have “that” person in our lives who over-steps, asks too much, and doesn’t give in return. But, what if “that” person is a client?
This episode is Part #2 of a 3-part series exploring the importance of having clear values to guide you in business. In this episode, we’re exploring the importance of setting values-based boundaries with your clients.
Not only will values-based boundaries keep you sane, but they’ll help you provide a better experience to your customers. I hope you’ll join me for this important conversation.
Being ‘busy’ has become a badge of honor in our society – signaling to other people, and to ourselves, that we’re valuable, in demand, and hard-working. But, at what cost?
Today on the podcast, we’re diving deep into ‘hustle culture.’ We’re talking about the surprising roots of where it came from, the impact it has on our behavior and whether we’re behaving in alignment with the type of person we want to be, and some practical tips to say ‘no’ to hustle culture.
As we find ourselves becoming more and more squeezed by our schedules and responsibilities, it has never been more important to find ways to create space, ease, and balance in our lives. Listen to this episode to learn how.
It's a fact of life that all of us will experience stress and adversity in our lives. Probably on a daily basis. It's easy to get caught up in stressful circumstances, so today, I want to offer you a simple question to ask yourself when you're feeling stress.
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The types of difficult decisions we are faced with in business are unique because they aren't really straight-forward. Many times, there are no clear-cut right answers. No obvious path forward.
Lots of times, there isn't even an optimal choice to make - we're weighing between multiple options that are equally important, enticing, or risky. It's a recipe for confusion, second-guessing, and uncertainty. Not exactly the mindset we want to be walking around with all the time!
So, when we're faced with decisions like these, we need something to fall back on to help us decide. We need a compass, of sorts. Our personal values can provide that compass, which is why we're going to be focusing on them for this episode.
How much money do you make? <--How did that question make you feel?
How about this one, if a job opportunity came up that paid DOUBLE what you make today, how nervous would you be to apply for it?
In today’s episode, we’re talking about the connection between our emotions and our finances. It’s a bigger connection than you’d anticipate.
Today’s podcast guest is Bob Wheeler. Bob is an accountant by training, but his work goes so much further than that. Through is book, “The Money Nerve,” his podcast “Money You Ask,” and his live and online trainings, Bob helps people unpack their emotions and beliefs about money and how they might be influencing their decisions and financial outcomes.
In this valuable conversation, we talk about the connection between emotion and money. We talk about where our beliefs about money come from and how they impact our decisions. Finally, we talk about how to begin to do “the work” of realigning our relationship with money.
The fact is, money is not the root of all evil. The more money you make, the bigger impact you can have on society and your own family for generations to come.
Find out more about Bob Wheeler and his work by visiting: https://themoneynerve.com/
Stop right now, and do a quick scan of your mind. How are you feeling? What is your attitude in this moment? Is there anything you're working toward, trying to change, or attempting to get away from? Have you ever stopped to consider that maybe, just maybe, the present moment is fine, as is?
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I can't think of many other life experiences that require more personal growth than entrepreneurship. Launching a new product or service into the market takes grit. Resilience. Strength. Bravery.
And failure, is inevitable.
Because of that, we need to redefine our relationship with failure, and we’re digging into how to do that on today’s episode.
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Conflict in our closest relationships is inevitable. No matter how great a relationship is, at some point or another, we’ll find ourselves in an argument, and today’s episode is focused on helping you “win” every argument.
But here’s the thing, our biggest goal with this episode is to redefine what a “win” is. We would argue that a successful argument that you’ve “won” is one that you can walk away from feeling calm. Without rehashing it in your mind. One where you feel settled.
And as it turns out, there are several ways to get there, and we’re talking about all of them in this episode.
If you liked this episode, you might want to check out our Ascend program. We included a bonus module focused on “Boundaries and Difficult Conversations” because this topic is so critical.
If you're like the vast majority of people, you likely feel busy quite often. The notion of being "busy" has permeated nearly every aspect of society from work, to family, to our kids' schedules. We find ourselves rushing through life, day after day. But, let me ask you this, what's at the end of all that rushing?
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Many entrepreneurs leave the comfort of their 9-5 jobs in search of freedom. But, there are 2 sides to the freedom coin.
On one side is opportunity. The ability to build and experience boundless growth. The feeling you get when you realize the ceiling has been removed on the amount of money you can make. It's incredible.
But, the opportunity side of that coin is balanced by the other side. The responsibility side. The side that says, "Yes, you are free. You are completely free. And now you must chart your own course. Set your own direction. Put wind in your own sails. No one else will do it for you." The responsibility side also says, "Yes, there is no ceiling on the amount of money you can make, but I've also removed the floor as well. Choose your next steps wisely."
Here's how to chart your own course and get to work, especially in those early days.
Virus Fatigue. If we’re being honest, we’re all experiencing it to some degree. As we release this episode, the U.S. has been in the COVID epidemic for exactly a year. This is longer than any of us expected when it all began.
The dirty secret of all of this is that, we’re human beings. We have needs. And, many of those needs have been taken away from us.
Today on the podcast, we’re diving deep into something called “Conditions to Thrive.” We’ll walk you through SEVEN different conditions to thrive that have been significantly impacted by COVID and offer some ideas about how to elevate your experience.
Take care of yourself. You’re worth it.
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No one likes to argue, but unfortunately, it's all but guaranteed even in the best of our relationships. Today I want to give you a new way to approach arguments that can help them be more productive and less contentious.
So many times, when we stumble through something new, big, unfamiliar, or ambiguous, we think EVERYONE IS WATCHING US! We second-guess and pick apart our decisions, behaviors, and failures because we FEEL LIKE WE'RE ON A STAGE FOR EVERYONE TO SEE!
Today, I want to focus on something called the spotlight effect. This is the tendency we have to overestimate how much other people notice about us. And, this tendency of ours, can impact the decisions we make, the risks we take, and our ultimate success in business.
Since 1950, rates of anxiety and depression have rapidly increased in the U.S. and around the globe, to the point that we now have a mental health crisis on our hands. Improvement in testing and diagnosis does not explain this increase. Rather, changes in our diet, environment, and lifestyle are believed to explain this rapid increase.
Our brains are constantly changing (neuroplasticity) and growing (neurogenisis). Cutting edge research shows us that the linkage between our brain and the “neurotoxic environment” we currently live in is leading to a weakened brain, causing us to experience heightened levels of anxiety, depression, and cognitive decline.
This week on the podcast, I’m speaking with Dr. Brant Cortright, clinical psychologist and professor emeritus at the California Institute of Integral Studies. In his recent book “Holistic Healing for Anxiety, Depression, and Cognitive Decline,” he discusses the link between our “neurotoxic environment” and our mental health.
Most importantly, we have a deep conversation about how we all can begin to reverse these effects. You won’t want to miss this episode. Your brain will thank you!
Learn more about Dr. Cortright at: https://www.brantcortright.com/
For the last couple of weeks, we've been focusing on habit formation. We talked about setting yourself up for success, and tracking your successes. But what happens if you "fall off the wagon?"
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Imagine you're at a networking event, dinner, or cocktail party. You find yourself striking up a conversation with someone you've never met, and they inevitably ask you THE question: "So, what do you do?"
If you're anything like me, that innocent question became a loaded one when I became an entrepreneur. I fumbled through it, weakly answering in a way that probably told the person on the receiving end exactly NOTHING about what I actually did for a living. And, I found myself confused as to why I had such a hard time with that question.
As it turns out, I have come to realize that there are 3 reasons why that question is hard for entrepreneurs, particularly new entrepreneurs. And none of those reasons is a surface level reason.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, resentful, exhausted, or stretched too thin, it could be a sign that you’re overfunctioning.
Overfunctioning is when we take on more than our fair share of responsibility inside of the context of the system we’re in. Whether it’s our family system, our work system, or another context. When we overfunction, we take on the burden of responsibility that others could shoulder.
And we suffer because of it.
Today, we’re diving deep into where overfunctioning comes from. (HINT: It’s actually a natural, normal, typically helpful mental process gone awry!). We talk about how to recognize it, what the implications of it are, and most importantly, how to begin to make a shift into greater balance and ease.
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We also mentioned our programs Ascend and Self Care [by Design]. These are both great options if you want to begin to do the work of balancing out your life to get out of an overfunctioning situation. You can learn more about these programs at www.peakmindpsychology.com/programs.
Last Monday, we talked about the importance of experiencing success when you're trying to create a new habit. But, how do you truly appreciate those successes? By tracking them. The simple act of tracking your own behavior and the accountability it provides can be the slight nudge you need to help you stay on track when you otherwise wouldn't.
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Tell me if you've ever experienced this. You're working on your business or setting a new goal, or planning for a product or service launch, or forecasting revenue for the year, and your mind steps in. It says, "Who are you to think you can achieve that?" or "Why do you think you're qualified when so many others are better than you?"
Imposter syndrome runs deep in entrepreneurship. Not only that, but when we feel like an imposter, it zaps our confidence, and we tend to set goals that are below our capability. We make decisions that are safe, rather than ones that are a calculated risk that could move our business forward. Essentially, imposter syndrome sets us up to underperform.
Even more, most of the advice I hear on the internet and in other domains is actually really ineffective, albeit good-intentioned. This is why we're tackling the topic of imposter syndrome on the podcast today.
When was the last time you felt ashamed? Did you feel inclined to talk to someone about how you were feeling, or did you keep it to yourself? As you think back, were you feeling ashamed about something you actually had control over or were you accepting shame for something outside of your direct control?
Does shame ever play a role in influencing your behavior when you realize that you’ve changed your mind on a belief you once strongly held? Do you ever feel shame toward other people when they seem to “flip-flop” on important issues?
What about at a societal level? Do you see the influence of shame in any of our core institutions? The legal system, perhaps? Or the school system?
These are all of the questions we’re addressing during this week’s episode, which is an in-depth conversation with Nick Jawarski, the host of the podcast “Shame Rules!”
Nick became fascinated by the complex ways in which shame impacts us at both an individual and a societal level. He attempted to cover it in an episode of a podcast, but he quickly realized it deserved its own show.
In our conversation, we begin by diving into what shame and guilt are and how they impact us individually. We talk about the role they play in keeping us from growing and learning new things, particularly in the age of social media.
Then, we take an interesting turn to talk about the near-universal role that shame plays in our broader institutions in society. We’re talking about things as fundamental as the legal system and our public school system.
Not only will you leave this episode with a more in-depth understanding of the ways in which shame might impact you on a day-to-day basis, but you’ll begin to see it everywhere in society. I know I did!
I can’t wait for you to meet Nick Jawarski and to check out his new podcast, Shame Rules! https://www.shamerules.com/
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Friends, it is January, and if you're like so many other people, you're probably working on a new goal. Many times, we set huge lofty goals, only to feel awful later on when we "fail." This year, try setting the bar low. Set it so low that it's almost impossible NOT to achieve it.
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Each year, I make changes to invest in the podcast to make it even more valuable for my audience.
We currently release a quick, 1-2 minute, actionable episode every Monday to give you a new tool or tip to try out. We release an in-depth episode every Wednesday focused on helping you build psychological strength to improve your life experience....but there's one set of questions I get asked ALL THE TIME that I haven't yet addressed on the podcast. Business questions.
As it turns out, there's a TON of psychology involved in being a business owner. Sales, creativity, persisting after failure, goal setting, work-life balance, and so much more.
So, to lean into the podcast even more in 2021, I'm experimenting with Friday business-focused episodes. I hope you'll join me for episodes to help you build psychological strength and become more effective, confident, and successful in the world of business.
Sometimes, the amount of work and responsibilities we have on our plates is just too much. Between work, caring for others, taking care of our homes and physical space, and attempting to squeeze in a little bit of self-care, it can all feel overwhelming.
But, what if you could approach it with an entirely different philosophy?
What if you truly understood and believed that your space did not have to look perfectly put-together?
What if you realized that you don’t exist to serve your space and make it look perfect, but rather, your space exists to serve you?
What if you realized that the chores, or better yet, the care tasks, you do around your home are simply functional tasks. Doing them well, or not so well, perfectly, or incompletely, does not say anything about you as a person and your worth or value.
What if you dropped all the guilt and shame about it and allowed yourself to simply do only what absolutely needed to be done?
Enter KC Davis. I encountered KC Davis on TikTok, and I was instantly struck by her message of ‘Struggle Care.’ Through her empathetic and engaging content, she teaches us that care tasks are functional, not moral. That shame is the enemy of functioning. That we can allow ourselves a human moment and be absolutely ok with it. This, and so much more.
Her new book “How to Keep House While Drowning” gives an approachable, tangible, not overwhelming overview of her philosophy of struggle care, and it’s exactly what we all need during a time when we’re juggling too much or battling barriers to getting our care tasks done.
No matter what, you are valuable, you are worthy, and none of that value and worth is dependent upon what your home looks like.
Learn more about KC at: https://www.strugglecare.com/
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